Out of everything that I have experienced in the last few years, since learning of my son’s diagnosis, I have been overwhelmed and frustrated with the communication barrier between my son and me. (That was a long sentence.)
Having a nonverbal child can be very difficult at times, well almost all the time. As the parent, I want to be able to communicate properly with my child and be on the same page with comprehension.
. . . .When is he going to start talking? . . . .
Don’t you think that asking a question like this to a parent of a special needs child is rude when you know he is unique?
So, I have a question for other parents out there. When your child was in the learning stages of talking, did people ask you when your child would be able to talk? How exactly will YOU as the parent be able to know when your child is going to talk?
This is not something that a parent necessarily has a say-so on. I cannot snap my fingers and make my son talk to me. If that were the case, then it would have been done a long time ago.
When any child fully comprehends and is ready to talk, then he or she will do so when the time is right.
Yes, I get that as a parent we want to communicate with our children back and forth. Verbally, that is not always the case. There are many other methods of communication that can be used. For example:
- Haptics (touching)
- Facial Expressions
- Gestures- signals or movement
- Proxemics -personal space
So, just because my son is non-verbal does not mean he is not communicating with me.